Marriage is a creative work! Creativity is a marriage!
I’ve been pondering this a lot lately in regard to what God has to say about the Art of Marriage in the Scriptures. Our artist, Yahweh, and our Lord God, in the opening scene of Scripture, bursts into darkness to create light; land and sky; and all creatures and creepy things. This includes us, and all of our creepy neighbors who live next door. All of creation originated in the mind and heart of God. His relationship within himself birthed everything out of love, and all things poured out of Him like water from a glass.
The portrayal of such a creative love—the love that God experiences within himself—I feel, is best summed up in the Eastern Fathers term of perochoresis, which is meant to describe the face-to-face dance that the Triune God experiences within Himself. Out of this perochoretic Triune dance, spun God’s desire to create male and female for this same love.
God pronounced is creation of man as “good” because man was to image the Father and Headship role of Christ. In creating, God also found it “not good” for man to be alone, and thus created woman. The reason that it was not good for man to be without women, is not because man was lonely, but because the women was to bear the image of the Holy Spirit’s role in the Trinity, in being called along side as a Helper. If Adam were to have remained without women, he would never have fully been able to show forth the glory of God, and vice versa.
Therefore, God’s art in creating and presiding over humanities’ first marriage, sexual union, and family beginning in the Old Testament, is not at all about the marriage, the man, nor the women themselves, but it is about God!
Marriage came out of the heart of God. He longed to paint a picture for a watching world to see of what His perochortic face-to-face nature is like. As God leaned back on the heavens and considered the best way in which to point to his relationship, love, and the joy felt within Himself, the best illustration He could create was marriage, sex and family multiplication. His love truly is one that preserves union, pleasure, and increase.
Thus, the marriage of man and women in our society is not to be celebrated and upheld, not merely for its institution, nor for the happiness it brings the wedded couple. Marriage is ART! Marriage is the fashioned and creative work of God in uniting two people in love. When these two people live in harmony, unity and ecstasy, the watching world gazes upon this union and sees a live dramatization of the Triune God. Our Christian marriages are to be as art galleries, and people are to notice and see the difference in how we act toward our spouses—so that they too may learn the Gospel and be drawn into the Everlasting Artist’s arms—the arms to which our artful marriages point.
Maybe this is what caused the wisest man in the world, Solomon—who experienced all of life’s highest highs and lowest lows—to pronounce everything as vanity, and to come to this conclusion about life:
Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 “Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.
Not only is Marriage Art, but also Art is a Marriage. Marriage teaches us about our Creator and our creativity. When God created man, he drew raw materials up from the dust and formed masculine chivalry. When He plucked the rib from Adam’s canvas and fashioned it into women He formed feminine gentility. These formed beings, eventually becoming broken and shamed beings through their disobedience, spoke the message of redemption from the beginning. Redemption is the story of the Bible, in how our Loving God takes the lifeless, the dead, and the meaningless, and turns it into something beautiful.
Isn’t this also the work of every creative on earth? Creativity is a marriage! It’s the “bringing together” of pieces, and masterfully growing them, shaping them, and spinning them into beautiful works of sense.
For us to be truly creative we must ponder the depth of marriage and allow its riches to feed our creative pallet. For us to truly experience the joy of marriage, and understand the weight of its importance, we must first see it as the art that it is.